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It’s weird to think about how your birth is a fixed point in time but your death is constantly moving based on the decisions you make. The length of your life is always fluctuating.


I have a few things to share that you may find useful. Some of the hair that you blame on hirsutism could actually be normal!

  • Growing pubic hair down your butt crack is normal.
  • Some nipple hair is normal.
  • Pubic hair that grows outwards on you inner thigh is normal.

I used to worry about…


I used to have a “body positive blogs” list that somehow got lost/deleted. Since then, quite a few people have asked me to recommend blogs that are similar to my own that they can follow.

I follow almost 800 blogs, so I was really daunted at the task of going through them, one by one, and…

expecteverything asked:
Have you tried sally hansen (?) facial cream? The smell of most of them makes me want to gag, but this one smells alright! :) comes with a soothing after cream that smells pretty too! so much less painful than epilating, id imagine D:

Yes, I’ve tried that one. But my skin is really sensitive, and it burns a lotttt, even days later. =[ Also, I hate the mess hair removal creams make.

Epilating seems really scary at first, and it hurts like hell too, but you get used it to afterwards.

What is a BMR?

Your BMR or Basal Metabolic Rate is the number of calories your body burns while at rest. This doesn’t mean the calories you burn on a rest day lightly doing yoga or chores around the house. This means the number of calories your body would burn if you were laying in bed all day or if you were in a coma.

Why can’t I cut calories from my BMR?

Cutting calories from your BMR deprives your body of essential nutrients it needs to perform everyday functions. You will not be able to perform on a level you want to and your body will suffer from this in the long run.

How can I find my BMR?

You can find your BMR by using this formula based on height, weight, and age:

In pounds/inches

Women: BMR = 655 + ( 4.35 x weight in pounds ) + ( 4.7 x height in inches ) - ( 4.7 x age in years )
Men: BMR = 66 + ( 6.23 x weight in pounds ) + ( 12.7 x height in inches ) - ( 6.8 x age in year )

In kilos/centimeters

Women: BMR = 655 + ( 9.6 x weight in kilos ) + ( 1.8 x height in cm ) - ( 4.7 x age in years )
Men: BMR = 66 + ( 13.7 x weight in kilos ) + ( 5 x height in cm ) - ( 6.8 x age in years )

How do I find my Daily Calorie Needs from my BMR?

There are different methods of finding your Daily Calorie Needs but a very simple and useful one is the Harris Benedict Equation:

If you are sedentary (little or no exercise)

  • BMR x 1.2

If you are lightly active (light exercise/sports 1-3 days/week)

  • BMR x 1.375

If you are moderatetely active (moderate exercise/sports 3-5 days/week) 

  • BMR x 1.55

If you are very active (hard exercise/sports 6-7 days a week)

  • BMR x 1.725

If you are extra active (very hard exercise/sports & physical job or 2x training) 

  • BMR x 1.9

How many calories do I need to lose/maintain/gain weight?

To maintain you need to consume your Daily Calorie Needs but going slightly over or slightly under some days won’t affect you much. In order to lose weight, the generally accepted number to subtract from your Daily Calorie Needs is 500 or 250 for a 1lb or 1/2lb weight loss per week. Your body doesn’t need you to cut calories to be healthy and get to the right weight/place it needs to be. Being healthy is your ultimate goal so never cut too much because this is your body’s essential needs and energy you are taking away from. To gain weight you can do the opposite of losing and add 500 or 250 to you Daily Calorie Needs.

My absolute worst pet peeve is when fitblrs and posts tell people to cut calories from their BMR to lose weight. You should never cut calories from your BMR. Ever. 



Spot Reduction is a Myth

"Toning" as You Know it Isn’t Real

There’s No Exercise That Creates “Lean Muscle”:

Eating at Night Doesn’t Cause Weight Gain:

Soreness Doesn’t Mean Progress (“No Pain, No Gain” is a Lie):

No Such Thing as Zero Calorie Foods:

The Sugar in Fruit Won’t Make You Fat:

Body Cleanses are Dangerous and Unnecessary:

Fat is Not Inherently Bad or Unhealthy:

Eating Non-Processed Foods Does Not Automatically Make You Healthy:

So, I epilated my face today.

If you don’t know what epilation is, then imagine having a hundred tiny tweezers pulling out your hair. It hurts like a bitch.

I even bled a bit. The hairs on my face had grown too long.

But I prefer this over laser treatment or facial cream even if those are less painful methods. For one thing, the laser burns my skin, it becomes so blotchy and red and I have to give antibacterial creams on my face for the next few days, which smell weird and I hate them. And facial creams are the worst. They smell like freaking rotten eggs.

So, even if epilation hurts, it’s less of a hassle.

And now I feel ‘normal’.

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For the Love of Body Hair

The following are some of the reasons I choose not to remove my body hair and why I respectfully encourage others to consider doing the same:
Body hair grows naturally under the armpits to help your body’s natural lymph system detox. Shaving it puts a strain on the immune system and can cause clogging of the follicles and pores (especially if done in tandem with deodorant) which backs up the toxins in your system. Over time, this can cause many problems including cancer, very commonly in women, breast cancer. (Using anti-perspirants makes this risk exponentially higher.)
On a similar note, shaving large areas of skin puts a strain on the immune system in a different way by causing abrasions, nicks, cuts and ingrown hairs. Your body is constantly using energy to heal, prevent infection, and grow your hair back. Energy it could be using for more important things like keeping you from getting sick.
Body hair collects a person’s natural scent. This scent is filled with pheromones which are constantly helping us communicate with the world. We attract the people we connect best with when we are not altering our natural smell. If you eat well and exercise, your smell will not be offensive, but will instead serve to help you connect with the world around you. I strongly believe that pheromones don’t only affect who we fall for romantically, but also who we get along with in every other facet of our lives (friends, family, workplace, strangers) and how well we get along with them. I believe acceptance of our own natural smells makes finding people we connect with fully and deeply much easier. Attraction of any type becomes more of a beautiful organic process like the opening of a flower to the sun. —————————————————————————————
Body hair protects against the environment and bug bites. I know I love having the extra fuzzy layer of all-natural protection. When I remove it, I feel strangely naked and cold and awkward. —————————————————————————————
The itch factor- once it grows out fully, it really doesn’t itch anymore. It becomes soft and fluffy. The reason for this: when hairs are shaved or cut at a blunt angle, they grow back with a thick, prickly end. After a while of growing the hair out, the hair wears down and becomes thinner at the end which eventually makes the hair much softer. Depending on the thickness of your hair, this could take as little as a couple weeks or as long as a few months. But really, it’s so worth it, in my opinion.
The judgmental douchebag factor- be aware that choosing to stop shaving and choosing to show your body hair to the people in the world around you will almost definitely attract some level of negative attention from assholes who make broad generalizations and try to belittle and berate your choice to remain naturally fuzzy. It’s ignorant and can be very hurtful, but it’s their baggage, their issue, and ultimately, it’s up to you how you let it affect you. Honestly, anyone willing to openly judge and make fun of someone for choosing not to shave is not worth your time on any level. I have come to realize that my body hair acts as an awesome douchebag detector. People who are superficial to an extreme and mean spirited reveal themselves pretty quickly around me. This has greatly helped me to weed out people who aren’t going to treat me with respect before getting suckered in by them in any way. —————————————————————————————
Additional Pros to Not Shaving: You never have to deal with stubble. You never have to buy razors or shaving cream. You never have to deal with razor burn or shaving cuts. You save time and money. You may even learn to enjoy your own body more; I know I did. :)
These are some of the questions I used to ask myself:
Deep inside, am I really shaving for me? If not, who am I shaving for and why? What would it be like to grow it out for a month? What about a year? How would it feel to embrace my body hair? How would it feel to love it? How would it feel to find other people who accept me exactly as I choose to be without ever having to alter myself in any way for their acceptance and respect? Do I already have people like that in my life? Would they accept me and treat me with respect if I decided to stop shaving and go to the beach in a bikini? I was fascinated and often somewhat surprised by the answers.
Embracing my own natural human state and fully accepting the important functions of body hair revolutionized my self image and level of confidence. It truly changed my life. It’s a choice that is completely up to the individual, and I in no way judge people who choose to shave. I just think it warrants examination.
Written by Phoenix Floe, April 2013

I really like the point about the judgmental douchebag factor XD

Great text c:


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